#3. Not Modeling Life-Long Learning and Personal Growth – Are you modeling for your kids what it looks like to be a life-long learner? Are you modeling how to really work on yourself when it comes to healing old wounds? Overcoming fears? Forgiving yourself? Tapping into your deeper resources and making authentic changes in core beliefs that no longer serve you?
The world is less and less stable. The pace of change going forward will make greater and greater demands on our children. Technological advances in field after field will present our kids with ethical choices and learning challenges that will be difficult to sort out. So here are 3 things you can do to help your children develop in to young adults with the personal resources necessary to stay ahead of the curve.
Read. Trust your interests! Google the “10 best self-help books of all time” or “10 best books on forgiveness” or “Best books on ___________.” And check out the references for books the authors turned to for insights. But, bottom line, let your kids see you reading and going after your growth challenges.
Talk. Share with your children the questions and insights that are coming to you as you read. Let them see and hear your process. Give your children the security of knowing that just living with the questions is more than okay, in fact, it’s a necessary part of changing and growing. Let your kids know that it’s okay not to know.
Fail. For you to model getting back up after falling down you’re going to have to let your kids see you fail. It’s not easy, but as Brene Brown says in Daring Greatly, “Our willingness to engage with our [...]